Loving ourselves is a personal, spiritual and lifelong journey, but it is also the most important one.
A lot of women, feel insecure about being lovable, and sometimes it is easier to love others. When we begin to understand our worth, accept ourselves and practice self-care, our neediness for someone else to approve of us or our longing for someone to love us to be able to feel fulfilled will subside.
Awareness of the "inner critical voice" that pops up from time to time is the first step. Is the voice loving? Supportive? Encouraging? Is it telling the truth? Or is it based on fear, or what other people used to say about us?
When I became aware of my thoughts, my life unfolded magically. I started to accept myself and to practice self-compassion.
Startling statistics in Carolyn Coker Ross’ (MD) article “Why Do Women Hate Their Bodies?” echo the findings from my ‘private research’ and make it clear that many women share these fears, not just Prime Time Women restarting after divorce.
- 80 percent of women in the U.S. are dissatisfied with their appearance.
- Over 10 million women in the U.S. suffer from eating disorders.
How to Love Yourself
Step 1: Access your inner self
Find a way to be quiet every day. Learn to meditate, or listen to a guided meditation or relaxing music. www.musicure.com is proven to reduce stress and anxiety.
Some people find nature calming, and walk for 10 - 20 minutes is a way to create more inner balance. Find the way that makes you peaceful.
Step 2: Healing your wounds
Our insecurities and anxiety represent feelings from the past.
It may a "scary" place to visit, but once you release and heal, you will begin to feel peace within.
You can't do the work alone. Body therapists, psychologists, regression therapy, support groups, or people who have walked the same path as you, will be necessary.
Forgive yourself for the past. Self-acceptance is rule number one. Let go of blame. But don't rush into forgiveness, feel every emotion and then let go.
Step 4: Live in the now
If your mind keeps taking your down "bad memory lane" acknowledge the voice and let go. Switch to another channel. Breathe and listen to calming music, take a walk. Enjoy the now. It is all we have.
Step 5: Surround yourself with likeminded
Let go of people who don't sympathize with your journey. Quite often it makes people insecure when we start to chance. The gift of having people in your life who appreciate you for who you are and who you want to become is valuable.
Step 6: You attract who you are
People and especially women seem to be searching for "the one" that will make them feel fulfilled. The truth is, you have to love yourself, and once you do, you will attract a like-minded.
Remember, you hold the key to setting the stage for a joyful future. Have faith in yourself, start to see life as a playground with endless opportunities.
Susan is a motivational speaker, published author, and survivor of cancer and other life-threatening illnesses that changed her perspective on life.
Her mission is to inspire others through "hands-on tools," educational programs, coaching and self-help books.
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