The day my daughter told me "I am in love with a woman"

I believe that we all have moments in our lives that we will never forget. Moments that become game changers, moving us in new directions or towards developing a new mindset. It happened to me when my beautiful girl told me, “I’m in love with Carrie.”

Was I surprised?  No, not at all. After all, I had encouraged my daughter to “try dating a girl” when she was younger. 

Compared to myself or her older sister at that age, I didn’t see her showing much interest in boys. My encouragement to “date a girl and try it out” was not well received at the time. I understand that. Who wants mom interfering with your love life when you haven’t even figured it out yourself?

Moving years forward, my daughter did date boys and even moved in with one for a couple of years. But sometime later, on a  magical night when she fell in love for the first time, she had a lot to figure out before she could share with us. Once she was ready, we saw our beautiful girl happy and in love, glowing more radiantly than ever before. I welcomed the news readily, but how did the rest of our family react?

My mother is from another generation, but was raised and lives in a very liberal and open-minded country (Denmark). Still, I wasn’t sure how she would react and decided to share Malene’s news in person when I was visiting from Florida. I drove over to my Mom and step-father’s house. My mom burst into happy tears when I told her. She said, “I am so happy for her, and I can’t wait to meet the person who is making my granddaughter’s heart sing!” 

Eventually, the news reached more family and friends, and my daughter shared her love on Facebook, receiving tremendous support.

We live in a smaller community in Florida, and at the time I was a bit more nervous about people’s reactions here. Not that it matters to me what they think, I just didn’t want to have to cut too many people out of our lives. I didn't have to worry; everyone I care about was supportive. 

My youngest son Andy (age ten at the time) was the only one that seemed a bit concerned. “Mom, can I still be an uncle?” he asked a few hours after I had told him. Two years later, Andy was the proudest uncle when he held my newborn granddaughter Olivia Rae in his arms for the first time. 

At the end of the day, nothing matters more in life than to love and to be loved.


Florida greetings



About Susan Binau

Susan is a motivational speaker, published author, and survivor of cancer and other life-threatening illnesses that changed her perspective on life. 
Her mission is to inspire others through "hands-on tools," educational programs, coaching and self-help books.